A close friend of mine just got engaged with a great expectation that her ring would be the most extravagant Jewish wedding ring of the century. She was, mistaken. Her love story is a rather humorous one.
Janice* (names have been changed) is a typical, well-off Jewish young woman who expected a quite lavish engagement ring, like most of her friends. Janice’s boyfriend took her to a very remote mountaintop accompanied by champagne and a bouquet of red long stemmed roses. While reading a poem by her favorite writer, he got down on one knee and proposed to my friend to be his future wife. However, Janice’s positive reply came before she actually saw the engagement ring. The ring turned out to be a small piece of thread within the velvet box she opened. Her boyfriend did this to see whether or not she would marry him “for better or worse,” as the saying goes.
Janice agreed to marry her rather creative boyfriend and they proceeded to plan their wedding. The wedding was to be the most extravagant wedding of the century. She was, mistaken. Her Jewish wedding story is rather a humorous one as well.
Janice found that the most important element of a wedding was in the ring. Janice’s idea of what she wanted in a Jewish wedding ring was a ring that encompassed all of her family’s Jewish values and heritage wrapped into a loving trinket that would symbolize eternal love in her eyes. In the eyes of her boyfriend, however, it was out of date. This type of ring was old, and he wanted to surprise her with a new modern style ring. In today’s world, Jewish wedding rings, like all wedding rings can be found in a number of settings, ranging in a variety of metals. This was exactly the opportunity to choose the exact representation of devotion and love that Janice’s boyfriend was looking for. He spent hours on the internet looking through the various websites which included mostly judaica until he found the perfect gold ring. The day of the wedding arrived and neither the bride nor the groom knew that their significant other planned on surprising the other with an unexpected wedding ring.
The Wedding Ceremony
Under the canopy or “chuppah” in an Orhodox Jewish wedding, rings are not involved in the ceremony; rather one wedding ring is involved. The ring that the groom gives the bride is the only ring given during the actual ceremony or when a couple is betrothed to each other by an ordained rabbi. When Janice received her ring under the chuppah, her boyfriend, now husband, gave her a very traditional looking, ring. This traditional ring was not what she expected, but he knew it was what she wanted. After the wedding ceremony, Janice gave her husband his wedding ring; it was the exact same ring. Her husband said that he wanted them both to have the same Jewish wedding rings and knew that if he bought her the ring of her dreams, she would buy him the exact same one.