If you ask anyone who has ever tried to plan a wedding, the guest list causes fights. Whether it is trying to justify inviting your best friend from second grade who moved to Chile or her sorority grand little, every guest list has issues. When deciding on wedding guests, there are a couple of tips that help the process. However, not every guest list is equal. If you have a large family, the guest list is very challenging. Another thing to consider when deciding who to invite is who is paying for the wedding.
Start Planning Early
By starting early, you can avoid many problems with the list. Depending on who you ask, a wedding venue needs to be secured at least one year ahead of time. Not only will this determine the wedding date, it will also decide the maximum number of invitations. By planning ahead, you will avoid forgetting someone. Additionally, if you will be exchanging wedding vows at a destination wedding, less people are likely to show up. Take these things into consideration when trimming your list.
Ask Your Mom
Even if your parents aren’t paying for the wedding, they will have people they think should be at your wedding. Whether its friends of the family, a long lost cousin, or the neighbors you forgot, mothers have a keen sense of who should make the cut. Additionally, mom is a great resource on family. Plus, while you can’t remember who was at your baptism, she knows. Finally, if you get to any friends that raise an eyebrow with mom, it’s probably a wise choice to cut that person from the invite list.
Two Becomes One
The best tip in deciding who to cut is start with two lists. Once you and your spouse consult with family, you should have a large list to merge together. If either of you is iffy about an invite, then cut that person. A wedding ceremony is your day together, and the best move is to keep that focus. It will be a great chance to see old friends and family, and any acquaintance who gets upset over a wedding invite probably wasn’t a friend worth keeping anyway.
Planning a wedding does not have to be a constant battle. If you start early, get assistance from family, and merge two lists into one, it can be done. Once you have the invite list together, start figuring out the best wedding rings for your ceremony!